CASSIDY SONKENS, LMHCA

You’ve spent a long time making sure everyone else feels okay.


You can set that down here.

Many people become experts at carrying what was never meant to be theirs: managing everyone else’s emotions, keeping the peace, anticipating what might go wrong, and pushing through quietly while wondering who is taking care of them.

Therapy with Cassidy offers a different experience - one where you do not have to perform, hold everything together, or figure it all out before you arrive. Together, you can get curious about the patterns that keep showing up, what they have been protecting, and whether there is room now for something different.

Cassidy works with teens, adults, and couples navigating relationship patterns, codependency and over-functioning, attachment and betrayal trauma, anxiety, burnout, stress, and major life transitions. She sees clients in person and offers telehealth throughout Washington.

Schedule with Cassidy

AREAS OF FOCUS

TEENS. ADULTS. COUPLES.

  • Cassidy works with recurring relationship dynamics around closeness, conflict, trust, and the feeling that you are somehow responsible for keeping things okay between people.

  • If you are used to being the one who notices what needs doing and takes care of it, stepping back can feel surprisingly difficult. Therapy can explore how that role developed, what it still does for you, and what more mutual relationships might look like.

  • Relationship experiences, early and later in life, can shape what you expect from closeness, conflict, dependence, and disconnection. Cassidy helps clients explore those expectations without reducing them to a label or assuming every pattern is something to eliminate.

  • Betrayal can alter how you experience trust, closeness, and your own sense of judgment long after the relationship or event itself. Therapy can help make sense of what changed and what repair, grief, or rebuilding may require.

  • Anxiety can look like overthinking, tracking other people’s reactions, trying to head off conflict, or finding it hard to let something go when it feels unresolved. Cassidy is interested in what the anxiety is responding to, not just how to make it disappear.

  • Burnout often develops after a long period of pushing through, staying useful, or being the person everyone relies on. Therapy can help make sense of what has kept that pace going and what may need to change.

  • Past experiences can continue to shape present-day reactions, relationships, and expectations. Cassidy approaches trauma with attention to pacing and context, including respect for the responses that helped you get through it.

  • Changes in relationships, identity, work, family roles, or direction can bring grief and uncertainty even when the change is wanted. Therapy can help you make sense of what is ending and what you want to carry forward.

Meet Cassidy

WARM. CURIOUS. GROUNDED.

You may already understand why certain patterns keep showing up in your life, yet still find yourself reacting in ways you wish you could change. Cassidy is interested in that gap between insight and lived change.

Cassidy sees many of the patterns people struggle with as responses that once made sense. The difficulty is that what helped at one point can start getting in the way later. Rather than judging a pattern, Cassidy helps clients understand what it has been trying to accomplish and what might make a different response possible now.

She works from a trauma-informed, relational perspective and draws from attachment-based therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), somatic approaches, polyvagal-informed care, and Compassion Focused Therapy. The goal is not to collect more insight for its own sake, but to help you understand yourself more fully and build changes that feel meaningful in everyday life.

Cassidy may be a particularly good fit if you understand your patterns intellectually but still feel pulled into them in real time, or if you are tired of being the person who keeps everything together for everyone else.

Practice Details

AVAILABILITY

Accepting new clients

LOCATIONS

Downtown Edmonds, WA

Lower Queen Ann, WA

TELEHEALTH

Available for clients physically located in Washington at the time of sessions

SESSION FEES

$165; waitlist for $80 reduced fee sessions

INSURANCE

Aetna, Anthem, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, First Choice, HMA, LifeWise, Meritain Health, PacificSource, Premera Blue Cross, Regence Blue Shield, and other plans as verified

COUPLES COVERAGE

Varies by plan; coverage should be confirmed before starting.

Outside the Therapy Room

Cassidy believes levity and depth can exist in the same room. Outside of work, you will probably find her tucked into a coffee shop near the water with a book or watercolor paints. Her cats may also make the occasional surprise appearance during telehealth sessions.

If Cassidy feels like a good fit, you can schedule a free consultation to talk about what you’re looking for and ask any questions before beginning therapy.

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Questions about rates, insurance, or getting started?

Email our intake coordinator at intake@acorn-therapy.com